Podcasts by Stress Bucket Solutions

4. Loneliness and Romantic Relationships from 2023-12-12T12:20

Dating in the 21st century is difficult - but we all need a human connection. Do you have an 'other half' or are you a complete person on your own?

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3. How to Empty Your Christmas Stress Bucket from 2023-12-05T12:00

Here's your Christmas Stress Strategy!

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2. Can you Do the Work? from 2023-11-28T12:00

You've got to get honest with yourself and think about if you're comfortable with your anxiety or if are you ready to choose another 'type of difficult' that may also require you...

1. What's The Difference Between Acceptance and Avoidance? from 2023-11-21T12:00

Welcome back to season 4 - we're back to the old format of short sharp episodes to make you think.

This week it's all about how to accept the events in our life and deal with them...

CLIENT INTERVIEW 7; A Business Coach's Perspective from 2023-10-30T12:00

There's a fine line between coaching and therapy but when you need help it's important to get the right help. In this episode Ewan talks about his own productivity and performance, how i...

CLIENT INTERVIEW 6; But Not Really a Client from 2023-10-24T16:00:29

In today's episode, I interview someone who has been following this podcast since the beginning and has emptied their stress bucket just by following my advice and yet never seeing me 1 to 1...

CLIENT INTERVIEW 5; Mental Fitness While Running Your Own Business from 2023-10-17T16:00:32

You're going to hear from Eloise today - superwoman extraordinaire who runs her own linguistics company.

She's honest about the brick wall she slammed into after a phenomenally s...

CLIENT INTERVIEW 4; Men do talk about their mental health from 2023-10-10T16:00:22

When people say that men don't talk about their mental health I strongly disagree - they do - they just want solutions, not to go over the problems. I see a lot of male clients for this reas...

CLIENT INTERVIEW 3: Jules' husband from 2023-10-03T15:54:54

In this episode, you're going to hear from David, Jules husband - you remember Jules...one of the worst cases of anxiety I had ever seen. You can hear her original interview - Season 2 episo...

CLIENT INTERVIEW 2: Understanding it emotionally from 2023-09-26T16:00:15

In today's episode, Ffion talks all about her fear of sickness. But not only that she talks about how she began to understand that undlerying anxiety, or a full stress bucket was affecting s...

CLIENT INTERVIEW 1: One year on...still flying high from 2023-09-19T16:00:35

So what happens 1 year after you've emptied your stress bucket? Is it still empty or do you need more sessions?

Find out how Helen went from strength to strength once she had complete...

BONUS EPISODE - What I learned about my own stress bucket on holiday from 2023-09-12T16:00:27

Contrary to popular opinion I'm not always positive, calm, and collected; I have my moments.

Hear about what happened to me on my holidays for my big birthday and how I handled it - c...

8. Are You Ready Now? from 2023-09-05T16:00:18

Are you ready for therapy now then? I hope this season has helped you either begin your research or, even better, take a leap of faith into therapy and change your life and the lives of those ar...

7. Prepare for your Initial Consultation from 2023-08-29T18:18

You've made the decision, and it resonates with you, now you need to book that introductory call. You don't need to be anxious about that because in this episode I explain what I ask and...

6. Online vs. Face to Face Therapy from 2023-08-22T16:00:17

Therapy is now more accessible than ever but you need to find what works for you. Although I work purely online over Zoom with my clients, in this episode I discuss the advantages and disadvanta...

5. It's just talking though, right? from 2023-08-15T16:00:40

Many people put off therapy because they think it's just talking and they should be able to do this on their own.

And they're right, it is just talking, but therapists have been t...

4. What type of therapy will work for you? from 2023-08-08T16:00:34

With so much information out there how do you find the right therapy and therapist for you? What's the difference between CBT and Solution Focused work? What to choose? In this episode, I ho...

3. CLIENT INTERVIEW: one of the most extreme cases of anxiety I've ever dealt with from 2023-08-01T16:00:15

Jules' was literally shaking with anxiety and was off work. Listen to how she got her life back, got back to work, and how her kids are kind of pleased and at the same time annoyed that they...

2. What's Stopping You Getting Therapy? from 2023-07-25T16:00

What if it doesn't work? What is the right therapy for me? If the medicine is there why won't you take it?

In this episode, I talk about those barriers and, from my point of view...

1. Season 2 Trailer from 2023-07-19T16:00

It's good to be back....what's coming up this season?

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150. EMOTIONS: Ghosting - it's emotional abuse from 2023-05-23T16:13:04

Yeah, I've been ghosted, and here's what I think about it.

Also, this is episode 150, can you believe it - I need a little break and time to have a rethink, I think.

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149. BRAIN BASICS; Change is an error message for your brain from 2023-05-16T16:00:26

No one likes change, even if it's good for you. Find out why and more in this week's episode.

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148. BRAIN BASICS; Your brain is like a business from 2023-05-09T16:00

Here's a really useful metaphor to explain how you can create powerful change in your own mind if only you can give your 'secretary' a detailed, positive image, and bypass the health...

147. A GIFT FOR YOU: a guided relaxation exercise from 2023-05-02T16:00:09

*** This podcast contains a relaxation exercise. Do not listen to this if you are driving or operating machinery ***

This is the intro to the relaxation I use during sessions and that my ...

146. EMOTIONS; Stress eating from 2023-04-25T16:00:08

We've all been there - you could demolish a packet of chocolate biscuits in 5 mins when you've been triggered, but where does it come from and what can you do about it? Find out in this ...

145. BRAIN BASICS; Stop fuelling your stress response from 2023-04-18T16:00:44

A full stress bucket fuels the primitive brain, but the stress response from the primitive brain is very different for each one of us. Can you identify yours?

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144. RELAX; How to REALLY relax from 2023-04-11T15:49:54

The deep relaxation we do in solution focused sessions is extremely restorative. Different types of rest give you different feelings of relaxation. Are you really relaxing? 

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143. EMOTIONS; Exam stress from 2023-04-04T16:00:25

Good luck to all of you doing exams right now - here are some tips to manage your stress and ace that exam!

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142. BEFORE THERAPY; The Therapeutic Threshold from 2023-03-28T15:55

Do you meet the therapeutic threshold? I look for confirmation of these 3 statements when screening you for solution focused therapy.

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141. EMOTIONS; Life curated from 2023-03-21T17:00:35

Can you curate your life? Is what you're doing now in line with your vision of how your life should be? 

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140. EMOTIONS; Lose the labels....like "imposter syndrome" from 2023-03-14T17:00:35

Don't put yourself in a box and give yourself a label - it's a self-fulfilling prophecy!

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139. EMOTIONS; Celebrate every small win from 2023-03-07T17:00:29

In solution focused work it's the small wins that are often the most powerful. Make sur you celebrate your small wins to keep it solution focused.

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138. SOLUTION FOCUSED THEORY; Can it fit in real life? from 2023-02-27T17:00:14

I don't expect you to be positively solution focused all the time - it would be exhausting. What we do in sessions is brain training, preparing you for the challenges which come in ALL our lives...

137. BEFORE THERAPY; How do I find the right therapy (and therapist) for me? from 2023-02-21T14:02:57

You are the expert of you so here's some advice on how to find the right solution for you. 

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136. ASK YOURSELF; Are your issues impacting others? from 2023-02-14T17:00:43

Often you can be so consumed with anxiety or depression that you don't notice the impact this has on the ones you love. If you can't change for yourself, maybe you can change for them. 

135. BEFORE THERAPY; Giving it all away from 2023-02-07T17:00:28

I'm happy to give away all my knowledge in this podcast and my book - because I want to take away the mystery of therapy. Find out more in today's episode. 

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134. EMOTIONS; Depression and Suicide from 2023-01-31T17:00:28

***Trigger Warning*** In today's episode I talk about the very sensitive subjects of suicide and depression. Please skip this episode if you find these subjects difficult to think about.

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133. HAPPY NEW YEAR; New Years Resolution 2.0 from 2023-01-24T17:00:41

Fallen off the wagon yet? Then don't panic - listen to this episode and understand why new years resolutions are unsustainable - try small consistent intentions instead. 

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132. THINK ON THIS; The wonderful world of manifesting from 2023-01-17T17:00:40

My opinion on manifesting and why, if you're not careful, it could be very damaging. 

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131. EXPERT INTERVIEW; Mindful eating with Laura Wyness from 2023-01-10T17:00:44

I spoke with Dr Laura Wyness on episode 115 about nutrition and mental health and we touched upon mindful eating/ As it's such a vast subject we decided to dedicate a whole episode to it. I hope...

130. THINK ON THIS; Mental fitness is a skill from 2022-12-20T17:00:26

My Christmas message; Please take some time over the holidays to think about your core values and beliefs so that you can start to take small steps towards developing the skill of mental fitness...

129. CLIENT INTERVIEW; life changing experience. from 2022-12-13T17:00:23

Another interview with a client of mine. Hear Sarah's story of how solution focused work has changed her life.

Sarah is a dynamic woman in her early fifties but was struggling with fe...

128. BRAIN BASICS; Limit what goes into your stress bucket from 2022-12-06T17:00:49

We know how to empty the stress bucket but make it easy on yourself and limit what goes into the stress bucket in the first place - less to empty! 

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127. THINK ON THIS; What does 'taking a break for your mental health' mean? from 2022-11-29T17:00:31

It's a phrase that annoys me sometimes...yes you need to step away to take a break but use that time constructively to improve your mental fitness.

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126. CLIENT INTERVIEW; how lockdown filled the stress bucket from 2022-11-22T17:00:48

Another interview with one of my clients; Camila - who was pleased to hear I wouldn't be changing her personality, just emptying her stress bucket. 

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125. EMOTIONS; Trauma Dumping from 2022-11-15T17:00

A client introduces me to this new phrase this week....so I did a bit of reading up on it and this is what I found out. 

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124.EMOTIONS; Parental Anxiety from 2022-11-08T17:00:25

I had a great question sent to me about parental anxiety....which I'm sure a lot of you will relate to. Have a listen. 

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123. CLIENT INTERVIEW; dynamic mum of grown-up kids does a full 360 from 2022-11-01T17:00:12

Another client interview - hear from Helen who's turned her life around "a full 360" with the solution focused approach.

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122. EMOTIONS; panic attacks from 2022-10-25T16:00:39

In today's episode; panic attacks, and why you shouldn't ignore them.

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121. THERAPY; The solution focused approach to Menopause from 2022-10-18T16:19:05

Today on World Menopause day I'd like to take you through the solution focused approach to menopause and how I help my clients, and myself, to manage this time in our lives. I hope this episode ...

120. CLIENT INTERVIEW; young man with a promising future from 2022-10-11T16:00

Another interview with one of my clients...and a young male voice at last. hear why Solution Fcosued work appealed to Rob as he was pleasantly surprised it wasn't like how it is portrayed in the...

119. SLEEP; quality over quantity from 2022-10-04T16:01

When it comes to sleep don't get obsessed with the number of hours...focus on the quality of your sleep instead. 

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118. THERAPY; Solution focused work with children from 2022-09-27T16:00:28

Solution focused work is very effective for children. Please consider this type of therapy for any anxious children you know. 

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117. RELAX; Learn to love being quiet from 2022-09-20T16:00:53

When you're doing nothing you're not switching off....you're switching over. Learn to love doing nothing in this overstimulated world.

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116. THINK ON THIS; What's Your Purpose? from 2022-09-13T16:00:35

A purpose in life is to have an intention, a sense of resolve and determination. But how do we find it and how can we use it to limit what goes into the stress bucket? Find out more in this week...

115. EXPERT INTERVIEW; Nutrition and Mental health from 2022-09-06T16:00:16

In this episode, I chat with my friend, registered nutritionist Dr Laura Wyness on all things connecting the gut to the brain. Hear her opinions on how we've overcomplicated nutrition and how we...

114. THINK ON THIS; I'm solution focused NOT problem phobic! from 2022-08-30T16:00:08

People are under the impression that solution focused work is too positive. That's not the case, it's just about getting into the positive part of your brain to meet life's challenges. Find out ...

113. THINK ON THIS; Solution focused questions to ask yourself every day from 2022-08-23T16:00:58

Solution focused questioning is subtle but very powerful. In this episode, I give you some examples of the solution focused questions I use in sessions with clients, but that you can also use on...

112. BEFORE THERAPY; What stops you getting the help you need from 2022-08-16T16:00:27

If you were physically unwell you'd have no issue with getting help, but what stops us when it comes to stress, anxiety and depression? In this episode I explain what I've observed in people who...

111. THERAPY; Reframing from 2022-08-09T16:00:50

Get solution focused and learn how to reframe your anxiety in this episode. This is a technique best used in solution focused therapy sessions when your stress bucket is empty but there is nothi...

110. CLIENT INTERVIEW; coping with chronic illness from 2022-08-02T16:00:39

In today's episode, my client Jackie describes her journey through her chronic illness with Solution-focused work. She turned her life around to now manage and cope with her illness with a huge ...

109. THINK ON THIS; Physical fitness and mental fitness from 2022-07-26T16:00:22

Today's episode is an interview with fitness coach Julia McCabe who runs the boot camps I attend here in Edinburgh. If you ever fancy joining me in a BootCamp you can find all the details here <...

108. THERAPY; The Breakthrough Session from 2022-07-19T16:00:28

The very first session I have with clients is called the breakthrough session. This is where we lay down the groundwork for our sessions and I explain the therapy plan I have devised for you. Fi...

107. EMOTIONS; Normalising Being Emotional from 2022-07-12T16:00:45

Why are emotions seen as negative? Often used as an insult, being emotional can create some real conflict within us.....but in today's episode I explain how and why you should 'own it.' After al...

106. THERAPY; What actually happens in a Solution Focused session from 2022-07-05T16:00:52

Although I've talked in the past about the Solution Focused formula, in today's episode I'd like to take you through an actual solution-focused session. It's something you could easily try on yo...

105 AUDIOBOOK; What's Been Good - the journal from 2022-06-28T16:00:13

Final part of my book........Tricky to describe but I'll do my best

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104. EXPERT INTERVIEW; Michael Heppell, Motivational Trainer from 2022-06-21T16:00:07

In today's episode, I interview international speaker, best-selling author and coach Michael Heppell.

I love what Michael says about the ego, work-life balance and how he keeps his stress...

103. EMOTIONS; Anxiety warning signs and when to get help from 2022-06-14T16:01:55

Don't wait until your stress bucket overflows before you get help. Try and be honest with yourself and look out for these signs in yourself and others. 

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102. THINK ON THIS; Do you understand it intellectually or emotionally? from 2022-06-07T16:00:14

There are different levels of understanding. It's no use reading all the self-help books and not taking action, you won't get the emotional understanding you so crave. 

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101. AUDIOBOOK; The Power of Vision from 2022-05-31T16:00:53

Next chapter from the book - the power of vision is one of my favourite sessions. It's about really focusing on the future and how to move forward. Find out more in this episode. 

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100. ABOUT ME; Indulge me! from 2022-05-24T16:00:42

WOW 100 episodes!!!! Will you indulge me this 1 time and let me talk about myself for a change? Find out why I am a solution-focused therapist and why I love it so much 

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99. THERAPY; Don't think positive - Think Neutral! from 2022-05-17T16:00:59

You don't have to "think positive" to empty your stress bucket. When you're overwhelmed with anxiety or depression it's really difficult. make a big thing out of the small things by thinking neu...

98. AUDIOBOOK; The Adult-Child metaphor from 2022-05-10T16:00

The next chapter of my book, How To Empty Your Stress Bucket, focuses on a brilliant metaphor to help you understand how the primitive brain can throw a tantrum like a toddler and take control o...

97. THERAPY; How to create resilience - get into your stretch zone from 2022-05-03T16:00:13

Get to the edge of your comfort zone and learn to be comfortable in the stretch zone to create resilience. 

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96. AUDIOBOOK The Bar of Control from 2022-04-26T16:00

Thought I'd throw in the next chapter quickly so we can crack on with the book.

Control is one of the major things about anxiety - when our anxiety is high we feel we've lost control, we'...

95. AUDIOBOOK; The solution focused formula from 2022-04-19T16:00

Next chapter of reading from my book How To Empty Your Stress Bucket - it's only a short one but still valuable.

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95. Audiobook; The Bar of Control from 2022-04-19T16:00

Next chapter of reading from my book How To Empty Your Stress Bucket - it's only a short one but still valuable.

You can join my pri...

94. Paola's Story from 2022-04-12T16:00

Another interesting interview with one of my previous clients. Paola had huge anxiety and fear a few years ago, manifesting itself into phobias of flying and going on trains. Hear how she overca...

94. CLIENT INTERVIEW - a teacher conquers flying phobia to travel the world from 2022-04-12T16:00

Another interesting interview with one of my previous clients. Paola had huge anxiety and fear a few years ago, manifesting itself into phobias of flying and going on trains. Hear how she overca...

93. THINK ON THIS; The World Carries On from 2022-04-05T16:00

This episode is inspired by a client I'm currently working with and a lovely text I received from my pal Shilpa. I hope you like it because it's a bit off-piste for me but I found it really powe...

93. The World Carries On from 2022-04-05T16:00

This episode is inspired by a client I'm currently working with and a lovely text I received from my pal Shilpa. I hope you like it because it's a bit off-piste for me but I found it really powe...

92. Audiobook; Solution-Focused Therapy from 2022-03-29T16:00

Next chapter of the book. A long one this one so settle in for it. 

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91. What Are Your Afraid Of? from 2022-03-22T17:00

What are you afraid of when it comes to getting therapy? Do you think I'll change your personality? 

In this episode, I try to address the reluctance to get therapy and I can't make ...

90. First phone call questions and why I ask them from 2022-03-15T17:00

The purpose of your introductory call to me is so that I can ask you some questions about your issues and from there if I think I can help you, I will then go to explain how I work. It's also an...

89. Back to Basics from 2022-03-08T17:00

The basic solution focused explanation of brain function is something I go over every single session with clients. You should get something different out of it every time, and as the stress buck...

88. Kirsty's story from 2022-03-01T17:00

Another chat with one of my lovely clients. A lot of you will be able to relate to Kirsty - trying to be a superwoman yet overwhelmed with everything. Listen out for the moment when she realized...

87. The Teenage Brain and supporting someone you love who has depression from 2022-02-22T19:00

This episode is in response to a message I received. 

First of all the teenage brain and the changes that occur during this challenging time. Also How to support someone you love wit...

86. Audiobook. What's Been Good? from 2022-02-15T17:00

Continuing with recording the audio version of my book here's the next chapter. Hope you enjoy it. 

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85. Sleep pressure and Sleep Efficiency. from 2022-02-08T17:00

Once you understand sleep pressure and sleep efficiency you'll be back on the road to better sleep. And in this episode, you can learn why. Here is the formula for sleep efficiency. It was diffi...

84. There's nothing wrong with anti-depressants from 2022-02-01T17:00

In this episode, I talk about anti-depressants and anti-anxiety medications. I take a non-judgemental view on them and here's why. Please note I am not a medical professional (anymore!) and all ...

83. Paula's story from 2022-01-25T17:00

Paula came to see me for an overflowing stress bucket. Hear her story in this episode. 

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82. Audiobook; The 3 P's from 2022-01-18T17:00

The next chapter of my book, the 3 P's.

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81. New Years' resolutions - How are yours going? from 2022-01-11T17:00

Don't despair if you're not keeping up with your New Years' resolutions. Understand that it's a primitive brain response and that once you begin to rationalise it in your intelligent brain you'l...

80. Disadvantages of solution focused work from 2022-01-04T17:00

Solution-focused work is not for everyone, you need to understand its limitations. In this episode, I talk about some of the limitations of solution-focused work so that you have a balanced idea...

79. Gin's Christmas message - Own it! from 2021-12-21T17:00

It's Be-Gin-ning to look a lot like Christmas!  There are no rules to be followed for Christmas. Make sure you observe your personal boundaries and hold your own space. 

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78. Audiobook; Sleep, It's free therapy from 2021-12-14T17:00

The next chapter of my book read by me! No much to say - I get stuck right in and let you hear what I've written. Hope you enjoy it. 

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77. Re-engage with life! from 2021-12-07T17:00

Stop ruminating, get out of your own head and re-engage with life. In this episode, I don't mean to offend but I am passionate about this controversial way of looking at things. I hope you can l...

76. Chris's Story from 2021-11-30T18:00

Another interview with one of my clients - Sound levels in this episode are variable so hope you can forgive me for that. But Chris's story is fascinating and she has some really great insights ...

75. Audiobook; Continuing the first chapter from 2021-11-23T17:00

Finishing off that first chapter of my book How To Empty Your Stress Bucket

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74. Look at What You 'Can Do,' Not What You 'Should Do.' from 2021-11-16T17:00

Many people put pressure on themselves by stressing about what they should be doing. In this episode, I explain why you should reframe that to what you can do instead. I also i...

73. Grief is a Positive Emotion from 2021-11-09T17:00

I've been talking a lot about grief and the positive and essential emotions that surround it. In this episode, I explain the 5 stages of grief, what you can do to help yourself or others through...

72: Continuing with the audiobook; Chapter 1 from 2021-11-02T17:00

In this episode, I continue to read from my book and give you an excerpt of the first chapter. I hope you enjoy it, mistakes and all. 

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71. How to Make the Most of Daylight Saving Time from 2021-10-26T16:00

With the clocks going back in the UK this weekend I think it's really important we take advantage of that extra hour. In this episode, I explain why and how to do that; it all helps to empty you...

70; Introduction to my book from 2021-10-19T16:00

In order to make my book accessible, I'm recording an audiobook. But I already have the introduc...

69. Claire's story from 2021-10-12T16:00

An interview with my client Claire - have a listen to why Claire felt that she really wasn't talking to a therapist, she was just having a conversation that she was then able to take into her li...

68. Why Online Therapy Works so Well from 2021-10-05T16:00

In today's episode, I talk about the advantages and the limitations of online therapy. If you've been thinking about going online with a therapist I'm here to reassure you that it works.

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67. Why is it Difficult to Let Go of Problems? from 2021-09-28T16:00

Being solution-focused doesn't mean being problem phobic. But we do need to move forward. Learning to let go of problems is the first step and in this episode give you 5 tips that we collated in...

66. Men Don't Talk About Mental Health? Rubbish! from 2021-09-21T16:00

I hate it when people say men don't talk about mental health - they do! 

In this episode, hear about my recent presentation to a male-heavy audience and why it's easy to open up this...

65. Why Motivation and Desire are Not Enough from 2021-09-14T17:00

Motivation and desire are not enough to create change. And yet we do things all the time without thinking, don't we?

In this episode, I explain why that is and how we can take that princi...

64: Make Your Own Melatonin from 2021-08-31T16:00

It seems doctors are now prescribing melatonin for sleep - I'm so angry! There's no need, you can make it yourself! Here's how.

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63: How To Calculate the Ultimate Bedtime For You from 2021-08-24T16:00

Ever fallen asleep on the sofa in front of the TV, then taken yourself off to bed and wonder why you can't sleep? Well, You're not 'catching your dip!' 

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62: The 3 P's of Insomnia from 2021-08-17T16:00

Want to know why you can't sleep? Although I'm solution focused this behavioural model I've just learned about is really useful for you to be able to understand your sleep issues. 

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61: What Does it Really Mean to be Happy? from 2021-08-10T16:00

Happiness isn't all about the "Instagram life". It's not all 'rainbows and unicorns.' It's more than that. But when we talk about happiness what does it really mean? 

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60: How To Get More 'Lightbulb' Moments from 2021-08-03T16:00

You know those moments when a realisation just comes to you? As if by magic? Well, in this episode I explain what's going on in the brain to create them and how you can get more of them!  <...

59: Don't Board The Negative Train of Thought from 2021-07-27T16:00

Do you agree with people taking time off 'for the benefit of their mental health?' What are they doing in that time off? 

In today's episode, I explain how negative thoughts are natu...

58. How To Recognise Anxiety in Others from 2021-07-20T16:00

It's not easy to tell someone you're anxious, so here's how you can spot some physical signs of anxiety in others. This may then make it easier to open up the conversation for them. 

57. Why online therapy works so well from 2021-07-13T16:00

There are some limitations to working with a therapist online but the advantages hugely outweigh that. If you're looking to work with a therapist online please don't let the technology or assump...

56. Still Catastrophising? from 2021-07-06T16:00

More on catastrophising and some tips on how to manage those negative thoughts. It's a normal survival response but talk to yourself like you're your own best friend.

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55. Why I'm sad about Naomi Osaka dropping out of the French Open from 2021-06-15T16:00

I'm full of support but also very sad - why should she stop doing something she loves. In this episode, I'll be ranting a wee bit (not much) about why I hate seeing this kind of attitude towards...

54. What successful clients DON'T Do from 2021-06-08T16:00

I'm not afraid to say that sometimes therapy doesn't work. I can't guarantee results, but I do guarantee, that if you can show some commitment to the process, that I will do the best job I can f...

Carri's story from 2021-06-01T16:00

Do you want to hear from one of my clients? In this episode one of my first ever clients, Carri, shares her story on her journey from anxiety and panic attacks to happily married and successful ...

53. Carri's story from 2021-06-01T16:00

Do you want to hear from one of my clients? In this episode one of my first ever clients, Carri, shares her story on her journey from anxiety and panic attacks to happily married and successful ...

Sleep Solutions from 2021-05-25T16:00

I strongly believe that our current mental health crisis is due to a lack of sleep. So do yourself a favour and follow these sleep tips to ensure that you sleep well because it really does empty...

52. Sleep Solutions from 2021-05-25T16:00

I strongly believe that our current mental health crisis is due to a lack of sleep. So do yourself a favour and follow these sleep tips to ensure that you sleep well because it really does empty...

The Gut-Brain Connection from 2021-05-18T16:00

What do we know from science about the gut-brain connection that could help stop a panic attack? Well, you'll find out in this episode. 

You can join Listen

51. The Gut-Brain Connection from 2021-05-18T16:00

What do we know from science about the gut-brain connection that could help stop a panic attack? Well, you'll find out in this episode. 

You can join Listen

The Power of Vision from 2021-04-27T16:00

Having a rich, vivid, detailed vision of your future is really powerful. In today's episode, I explain a technique I use to help clients to focus on their preferred future. I hope it helps you t...

50. The Power of Vision from 2021-04-27T16:00

Having a rich, vivid, detailed vision of your future is really powerful. In today's episode, I explain a technique I use to help clients to focus on their preferred future. I hope it helps you t...

Why are people so problem focused! from 2021-04-20T16:00

I was asked to contribute to a phone-in on current anxieties and mental health, except it was all too problem-focused for me. In hindsight, I'm so glad I got bumped off. At least I can have a ra...

49. Why are people so problem focused! from 2021-04-20T16:00

I was asked to contribute to a phone-in on current anxieties and mental health, except it was all too problem-focused for me. In hindsight, I'm so glad I got bumped off. At least I can have a ra...

Grief is a positive response from 2021-04-13T16:00

You're allowed to feel sad in the intelligent brain - just don't get emotionally hijacked! In this episode, I explain why you needn't feel like everything has to be 'rainbows and unicorns' all o...

48. Grief is a positive response from 2021-04-13T16:00

You're allowed to feel sad in the intelligent brain - just don't get emotionally hijacked! In this episode, I explain why you needn't feel like everything has to be 'rainbows and unicorns' all o...

Limit what goes into the stress bucket from 2021-04-06T16:00

It's not just about emptying the stress bucket but limiting what goes into it in the first place right? If you can do that you'll be on to assure fire way to better mental health. 

47. Limit what goes into the stress bucket from 2021-04-06T16:00

It's not just about emptying the stress bucket but limiting what goes into it in the first place right? If you can do that you'll be on to assure fire way to better mental health. 

Y...

"What would be good about that?" from 2021-03-30T16:00

In today's episode, I talk about I technique I use during sessions with clients to dig deep and find some positive emotion behind the reason you want to do things. Too often we can procrastinate...

46. "What would be good about that?" from 2021-03-30T16:00

In today's episode, I talk about I technique I use during sessions with clients to dig deep and find some positive emotion behind the reason you want to do things. Too often we can procrastinate...

Breaking Bad Habits from 2021-03-23T17:00

First of all, here's the link to Homestart Aberdeen to book onto my talk " How To Empty Your Stress Bucket" - it's a great charity so all donat...

45. Breaking Bad Habits from 2021-03-23T17:00

First of all, here's the link to Homestart Aberdeen to book onto my talk " How To Empty Your Stress Bucket" - it's a great charity so all donat...

Post Lockdown anxiety from 2021-03-16T17:00

The end of the pandemic and coming out of lockdown seems like the goal we’ve all been waiting for and the end of a long struggle.

However, we’ve got used to being in a bit of a bubble...

44. Post Lockdown anxiety from 2021-03-16T17:00

The end of the pandemic and coming out of lockdown seems like the goal we’ve all been waiting for and the end of a long struggle.

However, we’ve got used to being in a bit of a bubble so ...

Being there for others...even remotely from 2021-03-09T17:00

It's really important to feel connected and be there for others ( providing your stress bucket is quite empty). We are social beings and need to feel part of something. How do we do that remotel...

43. Being there for others...even remotely from 2021-03-09T17:00

It's really important to feel connected and be there for others ( providing your stress bucket is quite empty). We are social beings and need to feel part of something. How do we do that remotel...

42. A business coach interviews me from 2021-03-02T17:00

A friend of mine who is a business coach wanted to interview me so I thought it would be nice to share this recording with you.

Yvo...

A business coach interviews me from 2021-03-02T17:00

A friend of mine who is a business coach wanted to interview me so I thought it would be nice to share this recording with you.

Listen

41. Toxic Positivity from 2021-02-23T17:00

I might go off on a bit of a rant with this one but bear with me! 

In this episode, I talk about toxic positivity and what you can do to help yourself and others when faced with all ...

Toxic Positivity from 2021-02-23T17:00

I might go off on a bit of a rant with this one but bear with me! 

In this episode, I talk about toxic positivity and what you can do to help yourself and others when faced with ...

40. Learn to LIKE yourself! from 2021-02-16T17:00

Seeing as it was Valentines Day I wanted to address all things love.

In this episode, I'll explain why you don't need to LOVE yourself before you can love others. All relationships, roman...

Learn to LIKE yourself! from 2021-02-16T17:00

Seeing as it was Valentines Day I wanted to address all things love.

In this episode, I'll explain why you don't need to LOVE yourself before you can love others. All relationships, r...

39. The Adult - Child metaphor to understand how to overcome a fear or addiction from 2021-02-09T17:00

I use this metaphor a lot to help my clients overcome fears and addictions such as smoking. It's so easy to remember - find out why I'm such a fab Aunty Gin to my nieces and nephews  - but ...

The Adult - Child metaphor to understand how to overcome a fear or addiction from 2021-02-09T17:00

I use this metaphor a lot to help my clients overcome fears and addictions such as smoking. It's so easy to remember - find out why I'm such a fab Aunty Gin to my nieces and nephews  - but ...

38. Phobias and Fears from 2021-02-02T17:00

Where do Phobias come from in the brain, how do we develop them and what can you do to overcome them?

In this episode, I explain all about the brain function of fears and phobias - ration...

Phobias and Fears from 2021-02-02T17:00

Where do Phobias come from in the brain, how do we develop them and what can you do to overcome them?

In this episode, I explain all about the brain function of fears and phobias - ra...

37. Stop Chasing Happiness from 2021-01-26T17:00

Our pursuit of happiness could be doing more harm than good - it's unrealistic to expect your stress bucket to be empty ALL of the time. In this episode, I talk about making sure you stay object...

Stop Chasing Happiness from 2021-01-26T17:00

Our pursuit of happiness could be doing more harm than good - it's unrealistic to expect your stress bucket to be empty ALL of the time. In this episode, I talk about making sure you stay object...

36. The Solution Focused Formula from 2021-01-19T17:00

Do you want the Solution Focused formula to empty the stress bucket? It's 3 easy steps that you can do easily to help eliminate anxiety, stress and depression. This episode will help you with th...

The Solution Focused Formula from 2021-01-19T17:00

Do you want the Solution Focused formula to empty the stress bucket? It's 3 easy steps that you can do easily to help eliminate anxiety, stress and depression. This episode will help you with th...

35. The Doing Picture from 2021-01-12T17:00

Direct your subconscious to SOlutions rather than problems and you'll begin to notice the difference. In this episode, I'll explain 1 of the therapeutic techniques that will help you to empty yo...

The Doing Picture from 2021-01-12T17:00

Direct your subconscious to SOlutions rather than problems and you'll begin to notice the difference. In this episode, I'll explain 1 of the therapeutic techniques that will help you to empty yo...

34. Feel the Feelings and get through it anyway! from 2021-01-04T17:00

Happy New Year - yes I'm going to say it because my job is to try my best to make you feel better! 

I'm not going to deny it's been a challenging time and I'm going to give you permi...

Feel the Feelings and get through it anyway! from 2021-01-04T17:00

Happy New Year - yes I'm going to say it because my job is to try my best to make you feel better! 

I'm not going to deny it's been a challenging time and I'm going to give you p...

33. Looking after yourself is NOT selfish from 2020-12-15T18:00

In this final episode of the year I want to leave you with this message; Please look after yourself, for only then do you have more to give others. 

Merry Christmas and see you in th...

Looking after yourself is NOT selfish from 2020-12-15T18:00

In this final episode of the year I want to leave you with this message; Please look after yourself, for only then do you have more to give others. 

Merry Christmas and see you i...

32. Procrastination from 2020-12-08T18:00

In this episode, I explain why procrastination (if I can at least pronounce it!)  is just a survival response and I share some tips on how you can overcome it - it's all about seeing the mo...

Procrastination from 2020-12-08T18:00

In this episode, I explain why procrastination (if I can at least pronounce it!)  is just a survival response and I share some tips on how you can overcome it - it's all about seeing the mo...

31. Having digestive issues - it could be due to stress from 2020-12-01T18:00

There is a huge link between stress and digestive issues. In today's episode, I explain briefly why that is and what you can do ensure that the next time you see the metaphorical polar bear you ...

Having digestive issues - it could be due to stress from 2020-12-01T18:00

There is a huge link between stress and digestive issues. In today's episode, I explain briefly why that is and what you can do ensure that the next time you see the metaphorical polar bear you ...

30. Why Its Good To Be Bored! from 2020-11-24T17:00

When was the last time you did absolutely nothing?

Don't feel guilty, you're not switching off - you're switching over.

In this episode, I explain what is happening when you daydre...

Why Its Good To Be Bored! from 2020-11-24T17:00

When was the last time you did absolutely nothing?

Don't feel guilty, you're not switching off - you're switching over.

In this episode, I explain what is happening when yo...

29. The logical levels of change from 2020-11-17T17:00

It can be easy to change when you understand the logical levels that create this. Environment - Behaviour - Capabilities - Beliefs/Values - Identity.

But should we turn this around? In th...

The logical levels of change from 2020-11-17T17:00

It can be easy to change when you understand the logical levels that create this. Environment - Behaviour - Capabilities - Beliefs/Values - Identity.

But should we turn this around? I...

28. How long does therapy take? from 2020-11-10T17:00

You hear of people who are in therapy for years at a time and this can put people off, so I'm often asked this question. Obviously, I can only talk about Solution Focused work but compared to ot...

How long does therapy take? from 2020-11-10T17:00

You hear of people who are in therapy for years at a time and this can put people off, so I'm often asked this question. Obviously, I can only talk about Solution Focused work but compared to ot...

27. How to maintain good habits when you're feeling depressed or anxious from 2020-11-03T17:00

Everyone knows that positive activities and positive interactions are good for you. But when you're in the depths of depression or highly anxious those are the last things you want to do. In thi...

How to maintain good habits when you're feeling depressed or anxious from 2020-11-03T17:00

Everyone knows that positive activities and positive interactions are good for you. But when you're in the depths of depression or highly anxious those are the last things you want to do. In thi...

26. Personality traits - are you a settler, a warrior or a nomad? from 2020-10-27T17:00

I'm not a fan of putting people into boxes, humans are much more complex than that. And it all goes back to when we lived in a tribe.

So what can you do to know your personality and utili...

Personality traits - are you a settler, a warrior or a nomad? from 2020-10-27T17:00

I'm not a fan of putting people into boxes, humans are much more complex than that. And it all goes back to when we lived in a tribe.

So what can you do to know your personality and u...

25. How to sleep when your mind is racing from 2020-10-20T16:00

You know the feeling, your mind is racing with stressful thoughts but you need to sleep. Maybe you can't fall asleep straight away or maybe you've woken up in the middle of the night and can't g...

How to sleep when your mind is racing from 2020-10-20T16:00

You know the feeling, your mind is racing with stressful thoughts but you need to sleep. Maybe you can't fall asleep straight away or maybe you've woken up in the middle of the night and can't g...

24. Work related stress from 2020-10-13T16:00

Not all stress is bad for you, and there's no such thing as work-life balance, so how can you make sense of work-related stress. Listen to this episode to hear my views on it and see if it helps...

Work related stress from 2020-10-13T16:00

Not all stress is bad for you, and there's no such thing as work-life balance, so how can you make sense of work-related stress. Listen to this episode to hear my views on it and see if it helps...

23. Scale it up and the Miracle Question! from 2020-10-06T16:00

here's a technique that I use in Solution Focused Therapy with clients that you might want to try yourself. It utilises the power of your imagination to direct your subconscious towards a positi...

Scale it up and the Miracle Question! from 2020-10-06T16:00

here's a technique that I use in Solution Focused Therapy with clients that you might want to try yourself. It utilises the power of your imagination to direct your subconscious towards a positi...

22. The physical response to stress from 2020-09-29T16:00

Take note of how your body reacts to stress. Over a long period of time, this cannot be sustained so if you thought that mental illness was invisible - think again.

The physical response to stress from 2020-09-29T16:00

Take note of how your body reacts to stress. Over a long period of time, this cannot be sustained so if you thought that mental illness was invisible - think again.

21. The Bar of Control from 2020-09-22T16:00

Feeling in control is good for you - don't let anyone tell you you're a control freak - correct them by saying you're a control enthusiast!

In this episode I explain how feeling in contro...

The Bar of Control from 2020-09-22T16:00

Feeling in control is good for you - don't let anyone tell you you're a control freak - correct them by saying you're a control enthusiast!

In this episode I explain how feeling in co...

20. Lots of tips on how to get a good nights sleep from 2020-09-15T16:00

If you've been listening to my podcast so far it will be no surprise to you that I place a lot of emphasis on sleep. If you struggle with your sleep here are plenty of tips to consider to help y...

Lots of tips on how to get a good nights sleep from 2020-09-15T16:00

If you've been listening to my podcast so far it will be no surprise to you that I place a lot of emphasis on sleep. If you struggle with your sleep here are plenty of tips to consider to help y...

19. Depression, anxiety & anger can be positive emotions from 2020-09-08T16:00

Your stress bucket does not need to be empty all the time. It's perfectly normal to feel sad, nervous and passionate too - you're only human after all. 

Depression, anxiety & anger can be positive emotions from 2020-09-08T16:00

Your stress bucket does not need to be empty all the time. It's perfectly normal to feel sad, nervous and passionate too - you're only human after all. 

18. Emotional eating and the stress response from 2020-09-01T16:00

Whether you can demolish a packet of chocolate biscuits in 3 minutes or have 4 packets of monster munch in 1 sitting we've all know what it feels like to want to mindlessly eat. But why doe...

Emotional eating and the stress response from 2020-09-01T16:00

Whether you can demolish a packet of chocolate biscuits in 3 minutes or have 4 packets of monster munch in 1 sitting we've all know what it feels like to want to mindlessly eat. But why doe...

17. The subconscious and your brain as a business from 2020-08-25T04:00

Imagine your brain is a business - what roles do the CEO, the Health & Safety Officer and the award-winning secretary have to play in making sure this business, your brain, works efficiently...

The subconcious and your brain as a business from 2020-08-25T04:00

Imagine your brain is a business - what roles do the CEO, the Health & Safety Officer and the award-winning secretary have to play in making sure this business, your brain, works efficiently...

16. When you sleep for 10 hours but you don't feel refreshed! from 2020-08-18T16:00

Following on from last weeks episode today I talk about what is happening with the stress bucket that makes some people sleep for 9 or 10 hours but wake up feeling exhausted. If this sound like ...

When you sleep for 10 hours but you don't feel refreshed! from 2020-08-18T16:00

Following on from last weeks episode today I talk about what is happening with the stress bucket that makes some people sleep for 9 or 10 hours but wake up feeling exhausted. If this sound like ...

15. When you wake up in the night and can't get back to sleep again from 2020-08-11T17:00

Ever woken up in the middle of the night, your mind is racing, and you can't get back to sleep again? Or you're really tired and go to bed but as soon as your head hits the pillow you are wide a...

When you wake up in the night and can't get back to sleep again from 2020-08-11T17:00

Ever woken up in the middle of the night, your mind is racing, and you can't get back to sleep again? Or you're really tired and go to bed but as soon as your head hits the pillow you are wide a...

14. Don't Think About a Green Bus! from 2020-08-04T16:00

"Whether you think you can or you think you can't, you're right" Henry Ford.  Your mind looks for confirmation of what it believes, it's not about being right or wrong, it just needs the co...

Don't Think About a Green Bus! from 2020-08-04T16:00

"Whether you think you can or you think you can't, you're right" Henry Ford.  Your mind looks for confirmation of what it believes, it's not about being right or wrong, it just needs the co...

13. What's Been Good? from 2020-07-28T16:00

This is such a powerful question and one I challenge you to begin using regularly. In this podcast, you'll find out why I love this question and also why I'm "a therapist that doesn't want to he...

What's Been Good? from 2020-07-28T16:00

This is such a powerful question and one I challenge you to begin using regularly. In this podcast, you'll find out why I love this question and also why I'm "a therapist that doesn't want to he...

12. How to Support Someone you love with their Mental Health from 2020-07-21T15:00

It's really difficult to know how to help a loved one with their mental health issues. But as a supportive friend, relative or partner here are a few things that could help. 

How to Support Someone you love with their Mental Health from 2020-07-21T15:00

It's really difficult to know how to help a loved one with their mental health issues. But as a supportive friend, relative or partner here are a few things that could help. 

11. Be present and in the moment to limit what goes into your Stress Bucket from 2020-07-14T16:00

Observing your thoughts, being present, meditation and mindfulness are not as easy as they seem at first but learning how to do that in your everyday activities is a skill that is extremely bene...

Be present and in the moment to limit what goes into your Stress Bucket from 2020-07-14T16:00

Observing your thoughts, being present, meditation and mindfulness are not as easy as they seem at first but learning how to do that in your everyday activities is a skill that is extremely bene...

10. Anxious about coming out of lockdown? from 2020-07-07T16:00

In Scotland, we're still just at the beginning of coming out of lockdown. Although this is a godsend for some it is raising a lot of anxiety and fear in others. This is an episode for you if you...

Anxious about coming out of lockdown? from 2020-07-07T16:00

In Scotland, we're still just at the beginning of coming out of lockdown. Although this is a godsend for some it is raising a lot of anxiety and fear in others. This is an episode for you if you...

9. The 3 P's from 2020-06-30T17:00

No, not garden peas but The 3 P's that the caveman knew would make them feel better both physically and mentally. Do these 3 P's and ensure you get your serotonin flowing. 

The 3 P's from 2020-06-30T17:00

No, not garden peas but The 3 P's that the caveman knew would make them feel better both physically and mentally. Do these 3 P's and ensure you get your serotonin flowing. 

8. Sleep - and how to get yours! from 2020-06-23T17:00

My favourite subject - SLEEP! Good quality sleep is the one thing you can do now, for free, to help limit what goes into your stress bucket.

Sleep - and how to get yours! from 2020-06-23T17:00

My favourite subject - SLEEP! Good quality sleep is the one thing you can do now, for free, to help limit what goes into your stress bucket.

7. Let's Get Into The Primitive Brain from 2020-06-16T17:00

More detail about the primitive brain and where OCD and being kept awake by your partner snoring comes from! 

Let's Get Into The Primitive Brain from 2020-06-16T17:00

More detail about the primitive brain and where OCD and being kept awake by your partner snoring comes from! 

6. Limit What goes Into Your Stress Bucket from 2020-06-09T16:00

Why not get a head start on emptying your stress bucket by limiting what goes into it in the first place! 

Limit What goes Into Your Stress Bucket from 2020-06-09T16:00

Why not get a head start on emptying your stress bucket by limiting what goes into it in the first place! 

5. Why I Love The Solution Focused Way from 2020-06-02T16:00

There are lots of different therapies out there but I just love the Solution Focused approach - and here's why. 

Why I Love The Solution Focused Way from 2020-06-02T16:00

There are lots of different therapies out there but I just love the Solution Focused approach - and here's why. 

4. I guess I better talk about the 'Stress Bucket' from 2020-05-26T16:00

Time to talk about the Stress Bucket. There are many different ways to describe stress but here's my take on it. 

I guess I better talk about the 'Stress Bucket' from 2020-05-26T16:00

Time to talk about the Stress Bucket. There are many different ways to describe stress but here's my take on it. 

3. The Brain Has A Filing Cabinet from 2020-05-19T17:00

Listen to why we panicked when we had to go into lockdown - we just didn't have a file for it! 

The Brain Has A Filing Cabinet from 2020-05-19T17:00

Listen to why we panicked when we had to go into lockdown - we just didn't have a file for it! 

2. Brain Basics from 2020-05-12T16:00

Let's start at the beginning. I'll refer to these terms throughout my podcast so you should know exactly what I'm going on about, right? 

Brain Basics from 2020-05-12T16:00

Let's start at the beginning. I'll refer to these terms throughout my podcast so you should know exactly what I'm going on about, right? 

1. Introduction To Stress Bucket Solutions from 2020-05-05T17:00

What to expect from me and Stress Bucket Solutions 

Introduction To Stress Bucket Solutions from 2020-05-05T17:00

What to expect from me and Stress Bucket Solutions