5. Why Perfectionism IS Toxic, with Licensed Professional Counselor Julianne Schroeder - a podcast by Valerie Rocio

Julianne Schroeder is a Licensed Professional Counselor, Registered Yoga Teacher, and Everyday Therapy Podcast host. Julianne specializes in anxiety & burnout, codependency & other relationships issues, perfectionism and general self-esteem issues, and oh, she is a recovery perfectionist too.

In this interview, Valerie and Julianne discuss the emotional roots of toxic perfectionism, the importance of practicing daily self-compassion and why high levels of anxiety are to blame for this cultural pandemic.

Key takeaways from this interview:
-High functioning anxiety is to blame for overworking, not superhuman high standards.
-Pausing isn't about holding back but about learning to sit with yourself to grow your awareness and self-compassion.
-Underlying insecurities, anxiety, depression, or childhood attachment are behind unhealthy perfectionism.
-When we are connected to our values in a balanced way, we can cope with the stressors of life better. We need to reprogram overachieving and rewire our patterns in order to break away from the cycle.
-The three things you should ask yourself when you're feeling that you're spiraling out control: 1. Would anyone else in my position approach me the same way? 2. Are my feelings 100% true? 3. How can I be a bit kinder with myself?
-Even when it feels wrong, celebrate the positives.
-To understand the root of your motivation, ask yourself: if no one was around, and they couldn't see the results of what I was doing, would I still be doing it?
-Therapy can help you heal in the long run but you have to be able to rewind and work in your childhood trauma.
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Resources mentioned in this interview:
Self-Compassion: The Proven Power of Being Kind to Yourself, by Dr. Kristin Neff https://www.amazon.com/Self-Compassion-Proven-Power-Being-Yourself/dp/0061733520/ref=tmm_pap_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&qid=&sr=​
Julianne's podcast:
https://www.everydaytherapypodcast.com/

Julianne has been featured in media outlets such as Psychology Today, Livestrong, HuffPost, Bustle, Thriveglobal, and more.
​To connect with Julianne, please visit:
https://www.julianneschroeder.com/
https://www.instagram.com/julianne.schroeder/
https://www.linkedin.com/in/julianne-schroeder-74481562/
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