11. Masturbation is a form of self-care, with sex therapist Rachel Maine - a podcast by Valerie Rocio

Rachel Maine is on a mission to turn the world into a more sex-positive place. Through her company Wellness Sexpertise and her podcast Owning Your Sexual Self, Rachel inspires men and women to talk about their experiences, desires and everything in between. Having started her career in a local domestic violence shelter, Rachel understands how trauma or negative experiences can forever transform a person's relationship with sex and masturbation.

Rachel's experience through Pure Romance (a company that sells products for adults only) gave her one-on-one understanding of women's sex journeys, and thanks to that, she now helps people of all backgrounds understand their body, their connection to pleasure and how they can meet their needs through self-pleasure.

In this episode, Valerie and Rachel discuss the implications of "the less you know, the more you can control" parent mentality, being raised in a conservative Catholic household, and how parents can harness the power of the internet to break the cycle of shame.

As Rachel explains, "so many young adult women don't know who to talk to, to get the advice they need" because as children, they were left to find out things on their own versus having an educated conversation with family members about sex education.

Rachel and Valerie also debate the biggest sex challenges in today's society, women's first masturbation and how the act of self-masturbation can do a lot for your self-confidence. Also, Rachel dives deeper into pleasure to explain how women can masturbate the right way, and tell you why you should start looking at feminist porn.

Key takeaways from this episode:
-Over 80% of women experience low desire to masturbate.
-Self-aspiration is deeply connected to self-masturbation.
-Sex toys and sex products can be outdated and it's important to understand what you should be using (for your own good).
-Sex toys are empowering to help you understand how you experience pleasure and how'd like to be pleasured.
-Sex response between genders is very different and there's no reason to think everyone gets it the same way.
-Masturbation can help you relieve the stress or body aches you may feel during the day ... and even help you have healthier skin!
-Over 80% of women experience orgasms through their clitoris stimulation.
-A sex therapist will help you understand the triggers that can cause lack or desire or libido.


​Resources on this podcast:
She Comes First: The Thinking Man's Guide to Pleasuring a Woman, by Ian Kerner
https://www.amazon.com/She-Comes-First-Ian-Kerner-audiobook/dp/B0007Q1CI6/ref=sr_1_1?crid=D8WD50B0J9MO&dchild=1&keywords=she+comes+first&qid=1589912715&sprefix=she+comes+fir%2Caps%2C190&sr=8-1​

Come as You Are: The Surprising New Science that Will Transform Your Sex Life​, by Emily Nagoski ​https://www.amazon.com/Come-You-Are-Surprising-Transform/dp/1476762090/ref=sr_1_1?dchild=1&keywords=come+as+you+are&qid=1589912792&sr=8-1

Sex Matters for Women, Second Edition: A Complete Guide to Taking Care of Your Sexual Self​, by Sallie Foley, Sally A. Kope, Dennis P. Sugrue https://www.amazon.com/Sex-Matters-Women-Second-Complete-ebook/dp/B006L6VW9U/ref=sr_1_2?crid=2ZAD68072W7YW&dchild=1&keywords=sex+matters+for+women&qid=1589912859&sprefix=sex+matters+%2Caps%2C182&sr=8-2

​Sex with Emily Podcast
​https://www.stitcher.com/podcast/sex-with-emily-recorded-in-the-stitcher-studio

Smart Sex, Smart Love with Dr. Joe Kort
https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/smart-sex-smart-love-with-dr-joe-kort/id1471803230

​How to connect with Rachel:
https://www.buzzsprout.com/764204
https://www.facebook.com/pureromance.byrachel.12
https://www.instagram.com/rachelmaine_ownyoursexualself/
https://www.wellnesssexpertise.com/

Further episodes of Hot Girls Cry

Further podcasts by Valerie Rocio

Website of Valerie Rocio