The Enneagram Journey of Learning and Losing - a podcast by Denee King

"The more you wake up to who you are, the more unbearable it becomes to be who you are NOT.”

This was the summer of moving for our family as four family units relocated. Some had outgrown their houses, some were moving to where their careers took them and our parents moved from a big two story house to an Assisted living facility with amenities designed for senior living. But what each move had in common was the fact that where they had been living no longer 'fit' their lifestyles. 

Sometimes we are forced to make a change because something doesn't fit...like an old pair of jeans, a relationship or a belief system. But what happens when we keep trying to squeeze into those tight jeans or exist in a space that simply doesn’t fit any longer? Like trying to put new wine in old wineskins (or new wine in a Clorox bottle like my college dorm mate did!)...eventually it's going to blow! 

But those that require us to change thinking bring about the strongest resistance. 

We have no problem saying “I used to believe there was an actual tooth fairy but I no longer believe that.” Our thinking about the tooth fairy, or what is called "the magic/mythic age of a child”, doesn’t FIT with our evolved consciousness at some point. 

But once we cross over into adulthood the EGO is fully at play. So we become attached to our thoughts and will DEFEND them even when they don’t FIT any more. Until the point they become totally unworkable and you cannot squeeze them into your lifestyle. At that point you will encounter resistance - first in your own mind! 

Like Lao Tzu says in The Tao te Ching, “If you realize that all things change, there is nothing you will try to hold on to."

Resources:
Levels Of Development - Type 8 

Change Your Thoughts, Change Your Life - Living The Wisdom of The Tao 

Further episodes of The Unfolding Enneagram

Further podcasts by Denee King

Website of Denee King