Ep4: Episode 4 - Overthinking - a podcast by Raina Jain

As Tony Robbins says that ‘You weren’t born as an overthinker – all humans have patterns to their behaviour. These patterns develop over time based on life experiences. And just as patterns are learned, they can also be unlearned’.

First step here is to ‘Say Stop’ to yourself in any situation when you find yourself overthinking. Set a bar for yourself – ‘That beyond a certain point I am not going to think about a situation because I have least control over what has happened and what will happen. What I have control over is how I want to feel right now’. And right now I want to feel pleasant, happy. And that will only happen when live in the moment. By simply being present wherever that you are, with your mind, body and soul. You can also tell yourself – ‘I will think about this thought later’. This way you are postponing your overthinking and slowly getting rid of it. This will help you to deal with your thought process constructively.



Secondly, overthinking can create a ruckus in your mind and in your behavior. And you don’t want to live a disorganized way of life. Right? Where everything that you do leads to stress and stress in turn leads to overthinking. One of the effective ways that I have found helpful is to reflect on your problems. Constantly thinking about a certain thought can only lead to more problems. Rather incorporating 30 minutes of ‘thinking time’ where you allow all the thoughts come to your mind; literally everything. In the last 10 minutes of your ‘Thinking time’ ask yourself some rooted questions like ‘why am I so worried, what do I fear the most, what is the worst thing that can happen, can I control anything now, what can I do best in this situation, do I have any evidence to support my thoughts or are they simply thoughts creating a fictional story.



Engage in a State of Flow– A state of flow is a zone, a mental space where a person performs an activity and is fully immersed in that state with full attention. You lose track of time and your entire being is involved and you use your skills to the highest. You can literally engage in any activity of your choice, from painting, to dancing, singing or playing a sport. You need to find your flow and allow yourself to flow. You’ll slowly find yourself to be present, very alert and clear-minded. This activity will help you get rid of overthinking. It’s one of the most effective technique of mindfulness. Mindfulness takes time, just like any skill it can be developed over time. You can make this a routine and try and incorporate this in your daily schedule.



Let go of the past – Everyone has a past. But some people let go of the past and accept the ‘it is what it is’ mentality which helps them manage their lives effectively. Few others, live in the past and tell stories to themselves about ‘what if’ and ‘should have’ which makes it miserable to live. What matters is what you tell yourself. And if you tell yourself all the things ‘that should have been’ are you really doing justice to your present? Right now? No right! If you want to ease your mind, this is one thing that you need to do – Let go of your anger, let go of any regrets that you have and most importantly forgive -  yourself and others. It’s one of the substantial ways to change your story into how you want it to be.



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