Ep 147 MM: Something New is Coming + Why Following the Breadcrumbs is Always the Best Strategy for Truth, Alignment, and Joy - a podcast by Megan Hale, MA, BCC

Happy Memorial Day, everyone!  Especially if you're in the US.  Before we get into today's episode, I want to bring our focus to why we celebrate today and what we're honoring.

There are hundreds of families today who are missing a loved one, a loved one who paid the ultimate price for our freedom and safety.  Yet, it wasn't just them that paid this price.  It's also the spouses and children growing up without their parent.  There is no greater sacrifice than that.

As a military spouse, I feel this intimately.  My husband has been the pilot on four angel flights where he's brought fallen soldiers home to their families.  On one hand there's been honor to be able to bring these soldiers home.  And on the other, there's been grief as it's a somber reminder of the cost of war.

So as you celebrate today, please don't forget what we're honoring and please send some intentional love and light to those who have paid the ultimate price.

Thank you!

So, this weekend was my son’s first birthday and with that came a wave of emotion. I noticed how fast the year went by and yet how long some of those days have been in between.

This past year has been quite the journey of deepening into motherhood and watching this part of me ascend. It’s made me acutely aware of my strengths, but also acutely aware of my shortcomings. Being a mom has made me want to be a better a person, a braver person, and teach my child the magic and miracles of life that surround him and are in him as he pursues his own path.

I didn’t always used to look for magic or miracles or signs or breadcrumbs. For a long while, it seemed I spent the majority of my time creating plans – my plans. There was no room for magic or miracles or signs or breadcrumbs.

And because of that, there was a lot of anxiety. Anxiety happens when we need to be in control. We have a vision and stress ourselves to death to make sure it all works out. And there are plenty of things we can focus on to control – our partners- the way they talk, the way they act, the way they help us with chores. Our children – what they eat, what they wear, how they present themselves, what grades they get, what schools they get into. Our lives- we can spend an awful lot of energy trying to ensure certain things happen while preventing others. It took me a long time to realize there’s very little in my control. This awareness increased my anxiety the first time I realized it, but then a peace came over me as I realized control was all a fallacy.

The times things did go well weren’t all my doing. The times bad things could have happened, but didn’t were also not all my doing. There was some other hand in all of this. Coming face to face with the limits of my power was infuriating at first. I’d still fall into the same old trap of trying to change my partner. I still fall into the same old trap of trying to make my child nap when I want him to. And every now and then, I still fall into the deep dark hole of trying to force my way in the world instead of allowing, instead of inviting, instead of having a preference instead of a goal.

It’s funny…. the more I sought control over things outside of myself, the more out of control I felt.   And the more I let go of control, the more in control of my life I became.

This has shown up over and over again for me. Especially in relationships wanting people to feel a certain way about me, but not being able to force it. Or trying to force a certain career path when it was never meant for me in the first place. Or trying to meet a goal that my ego had set for me to feel enough only to feel as though I horribly missed the mark.

The more and more I tried to get my way, the more powerless I felt. And looking back, I was so attached to “MY WAY”, I didn’t see all the signs. I didn’t see all the breadcrumbs leading me in a different direction.

I didn’t see those relationships were never my...

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