384. Captain Save-A-Hoe&Queen Change-A-Dick: Lifelong Patterns That Harm Our Relationships with Kelly Gardner - a podcast by Emily Gough

from 2023-12-08T13:30

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It’s tempting to want to play the role of “superhero” in a relationship - the guardian, the savior, the teacher, or the protector. But over-prioritizing their needs over your own often has a villainous effect on a healthy relationship. Because if all of your focus is on their safety, wellbeing and nurturing, you then neglect what’s more important - your own.

My partner, Kelly Gardner, a Relationship Coach and Men’s Group Facilitator, and I have identified two (comically labeled) archetypes of the kinds of superheroes we often see in relationships:

-Captain Save-A-Hoe: the man here to “save” and “heal” a broken partner.

-Queen Change-A-Dick: the woman on a mission to help the lost boy grow into a great man.

Today we’ll explain why you need to stop prioritizing your partner’s needs over your own, and how the foundation of a healthy relationship is really built on focusing on yourself, first.

In this episode, Kelly and I are talking about: